As Painful As It Might Be, God Has A Purpose..

If only you had the power to change one action in one day. If doesn't have to be your own actions, it could be those of someone else.

January 24th, 2009 My friend lost her sister and her niece to domestic gun violence. What would have been her sister's 25th birthday just past. Her niece was 10 months old. Her sister also has a 2 year old son who is still alive but was present at the tragedy. I think of them often. One of my thought is how would that incident have ended if she would have called the police when her stalker ex boyfriend arrived. Would Ava have lived to see her 1st birthday? Would Nova have lived to see Noah, her 3 year old son, grow into a man...

My friend Lauryn lost her brother Mario June 30th 2007. He was killed by a drunk driver speeding down I-57 in Illinois. The ironyin this story is so deep. We were all at the same party, I left like 30 minutes before he did. I use to think to myself and ask the question what if I would have left a little later or if he would have left a little earlier, would he be here to see his baby sister give birth to her 1st child...

In 1996, the month of March my grandfather died right before the eyes of my mother, my uncle/adopted brother and I. My mother was taking him to buy a car, his 1st Lincoln among many Cadillacs. Just as he was walking out his drug addicted wife (He remarried) stole his gun and took off running.

At 66 years old his body couldn't handle chasing after a woman in her 30's. He had a heart attack in his apartment complex parking lot. What if he would have just let her go? What if he would have stuck to Cadillacs? What if we would have arrived before she did? Would he have lived to see his baby boy become a hip-hop star?

The truth of the matter is we honestly don't know. Everything happens for a reason, it is God's will. Tragic as it may be, God brings us through it all and it only makes us stronger in the end. There's no point of being stuck on what if's. Just learn and live from your experiences.

Rest In Peace to:

Nova Henry and Ava Henry-Curry

Mario "RioMac" McRoyal

Willie Clarence Stanfield

Pray for the Families!